Broken Ego, Broken Home

I have been married for 7years and blessed with two lovely children.
I have always been the one taking care of the home front because I've a steady job and my husband is into contracts which is seasonal.
I think this is affecting my husband as I suspect he has a complex issue due to the fact that I'm the one paying the bills.
I pay for the house rent,pay for the cost of feeding the family as well as care for the kids.
My husband's inability to perform his manly duties has affected us and he takes it out on me by beating me on a regular basis. I've now turned to his punching bag. He locks me out of our home occasionally and I've to to sleep at the parking lot; forgetting that I've work the next day. I work in a bank, so you all can understand that appearance is key. These days I get to work looking worn out and untidy.
This is just one of the numerous maltreatment which I get from him. With all this I still try to keep my cool in the bid of trying to make my marriage work and give my children a proper up bringing. The one that has broken the camel's back is that he has threatened to take my two kids away from me and asked that we meet in court for divorce as he can no longer live with me.
Please what do I do to prove to this man that all is well if we live in peace and join heads together to live a good life. Please help me find solution to this problem, as I want to make my marriage work. I do not want a broken home on an invaluable grounds.

How my Husband duped me

Wonders shall never seize!!!!!

I'm in my mid thirties and work In an oil and gas company.I'm very comfortable and can afford anything money can buy because I wasn't paying any bills as my parent live in same city as me. I have a friend in government who I help to keep his money and I get my share of whatever he gives me A colleague of mine introduced me to her brother and immediately he said he wanted to marry me. I agreed because I felt my colleague was from a very religious background so her brother must be of good conduct as well. We started dating after 3months he said to me that things are a bit tight for him finicially that's why there's a little delay in the wedding plans that I should be patient with him. But as stupid as I was I told him there's was nothing wrong if.I assisted him finicially after all we were soon to be man and wife.I gave him money to arrange with his people to officially meet my family to ask my hand in marriage.
Because I thought we were cool, I opened up to him that I was keeping money for a top government official. After 5,months we got married with my parent financing the wedding. 2,months after our wedding  this fateful day my "husband" called me that he got a good offer for a house in Sunnyvale Abuja, that his friend won a lottery and wants to sell his house at a giveaway price because he doesn't have any plan of coming back to the country. So if I can take from the money in my custody he is going to pay back as soon as he gets paid For the project he was working on. I agreed but told him to buy the house in my friends name in case she comes for his money at least we can show him the house papers that we tried to invest in property for him.
Fast forward to now I didn't bother to ask my husband for the papers because I believed he did as agreed. But last week friday i got a call from my friend asking me to transfer all his cash to another account that was when I remembered to ask my husband for the papers of the house only to be told that he didn't know how to tell me that his friend duped him and has relocated to America..pls.somebody wake me up..where I'm.I going to get the millions from...how can my husband be so callous.. As far as I'm concerned it was a game plan. its causing so much trouble in my home and my husband is spoiling my name saying I was keeping money for my sugar daddy. Pls somebody help..I'm already pregnant where do I start from

Ladies, Don't Make Big Compromise Without a Big Commitment, It May Sound Selfish But It's a Relationship Insurance - Olumofin Busayo Adejoro

Ladies, Don’t Make Big Compromise Without a Big Commitment, It May Sound Selfish But It’s a Relationship Insurance – Olumofin Busayo Adejoro

Letter to the Ladies (Don’t make Big Compromise without a Big commitment) This Article is inspired by a friend of mine who asked me to write this so other ladies can learn from her mistake. She had a nice paying Oil and Gas job and was dating the guy of her dreams for 3 years, he then got a job in the US , so he asked her quit her job and follow him without a ring on it or any strong commitment, so she resigned and moved with him. Flash-Forward 4 months later in the US they broke up. She’s back in Nigeria now single, unhappy and unemployed.. 

Conflict Resolution in Industrial Psychology has compromise as one of its major techniques of solving any problems or alleviating an Intense situation. This being said, ladies don’t make a big compromise without a big commitment, it’s may sound selfish but it’s a relationship Insurance. 

A lot of ladies today allow emotions and love cloud their basic cognitive or rational thoughts.. Some ladies forfeit their masters or education for their boyfriends , quit jobs to be house wives, empty their accounts for their bf to start a business , move into a guys house ( washing, cleaning, cooking, sewing), refuse a promotion at work, step down from running for office or any campaign.. 

All these are good and perfect things to be done for your man if he has stepped up, when I mean step up I don’t mean a promise or engagement ring but a court registered wedding.. Some ladies have used up a lot of their Emotional, Physical, Financial resources on guys that will use those resources to elevate themselves and marry someone else. 

Every man wants and needs a supportive Partner, and ladies want recognition for helping their men but there are some sacrifices or compromise that require a strong commitment, you don’t want to be left hanging or lost in the wind.. A lot of Ladies have suffered Depression, Bulimia, Suicide attempts because they over comprised and their partner married someone else. 

Make smart decisions.. Big Compromise, Big Commitment….. #DoktorMofin

How I Slept With my Husband's Uncle before I got married

I am happily married with a child ,I  met my husband through his uncle during my youth service in Enugu.
His uncle has always been very nice to me which I thought was just a kind gesture, before my marriage, he would ask me to come over to the house and spend time with his wife and kids; this was just to get to know the family and a sign that I was accepted into the family. He usually comes to visit me as well.
On this faithful day, he came over to my place. It was raining heavily and he had to stay a bit longer due to the rain. Before I knew it, he started touching me and next thing we were lying on the bed and Of course we did the "deed".  I felt bad and guilty afterwards and made sure it never happened again.
I eventually got married to his nephew, and we have been married for 3years with a daughter. All has been well, I've a very loving and caring husband.
The devil decided to visit me once again; it was his uncle. He came to visit and said he had some business related meetings and will be spending 2weeks with us. My husband and I were okay with the arrangement.
Now the problem is every time my husband goes to work or an outing with his friends, his uncle will make passes at me and ask that we have sex. Now he has gone into blackmailing me; that if I don't have sex with him, he will tell my husband what transpired between us in the past.
I have begged and begged but he has refused and insist I must dance to his tune. I made him understand what happened in the past was a mistake I regret and we can't relive the past as I am also now married to his nephew. He even made a silly statement that he helped me get a husband, as he brought me and his nephew together in the first place. Please what do I do; do I confess to my husband or let the sleeping dog lie as I do not want to live a life of lies and my past has come to confront me..

My husband showed me fake divorce papers

A doasw reader sent this to me
You can't eat your cake and have it....
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I am in my late thirties and have a very good job. Five years ago I met my "husband" in my office, he was one of my company's contractor. we exchanged numbers and started dating.when I met him he told me he was divorced but have kids who live and school in the UK. We dated for two years and I got pregnant,so we went to my village were he officially asked for my hand in marriage and also paid my dowry immediately. Before we went to see my parents he showed me his divorce certificate which made me believe he was actually not with his wife.
But I noticed on our traditional marriage day he asked me not to use the picture as my dp or upload on social media because of his kids which i obliged. Unknowingly to me he was still married to the mother of his kids and they all live in the UK.
Apparently, what he showed me was a fake divorce paper.I already have a child for him, his kids now know about me and are frustrating me. He said he didn't want to loose me that was why he lied to me about been divorced... but he is still in the process of divorcing her.pls what should I do..I want to walk out of the marriage and concentrate on my child but he won't let me.

My Husband is a Bigamist.

I'm posting this article just the way it was received.......

Dear Eneche,

I  married my husband when I was
18years old.He lives abroad but comes to Nigeria every Christmas, It was during one of his visits that we met and in less than one year we got married and we have a beautiful daughter..….
He went back to Holland with the hope that I was going to join him soon. But it's 12 years already and there's no sign of joining him anytime soon.he doesn't even come to Nigeria regularly again,he comes every other year. My major concern is that I can't speak with my husband at will except he calls me. His number is always on voicemail. My family got so curious and decided to investigate him. And to our greatest surprise, our findings wasn't a good one.my darling husband is married to another Nigerian in Holland and they have 2,kids that are even older than my daughter.
I want to file for a divorce. but my inlaws are saying I'm the wife they know. I'm confused. I am only 30years and don't want to continue wasting my time. Please your sincere advice on what next i should do, will be appreciated. Thank you

Doris Ademinokan Estranged Husband Drunk in Love With Stella Damasus

The couple’s relationship has been quite controversial,after leaving His  actress wife Doris Simeon for another nollywood Diva Stella Damasus
The Nollywood director/filmmaker, Daniel Ademinokan recently granted an interview where he went on and on about his love for Stella Damasus.He said:

”I am so excited to dedicate this song to one person who has been a rock. Sometimes God just aligns things to happen at the right time. Stella Damasus – you are an amazing person and I appreciate you so much. The kind of mind you have, the way you think. It’s different and I’ll probably never meet anyone like you.

People don’t know the truth about how we got together. I appreciate you so much and you are a very blessed person.

There is something special about you.I have always said to you that the enemy will not attack you if you aren’t special.You have been a source of encouragement to me.You have changed a lot of things in my life.

The way we came together is even a mystery to us.The world may know a lot of crazy things about you but I know who you really are.Thank you for loving me for who I am. We cannot show the whole world everything but you and I have conquered so much in a short time. I would not have been able to achieve a lot of the thing I have if I wasn’t with the right person.You are an actress, singer, writer, teacher, philanthropist, is there anything you can’t do? I love you very much and I’m dedicating this song to you because I want you to stay with me forever".

LOVE IS A BEAUTUFUL THING