Should i tell my best friend her husband is cheating?

Dear Readers

My best friend is expecting a child and her hubby has been cheating on her like forever with the same woman.We don't want to approach this lady but we know for sure that he is.The one thing that is holding me and my other girlfriend is that we know once the baby is born he's going to stop.Should she have to wait that long though?What should I do tell her that he's cheating or wait and see?I have faith in him we feel he's going to stop because this is their first child and this was a planned baby so he's going to stop.For the time being she's being cheated on and we know it so if she happens to find out that we knew don't want this to break up our friendship.
On the other hand he's very nice person since they've been married he stopped going out with his friends but he lets her go out.they are Farely newlyweds so I know they are going to make it.Don't want to mess things up with her pregnancy but we don't really know what to do.What do you guys think is the best way to approach the matter?

Divorced And In Love With A Married Man

Dear Eneche

I am 37 years old, divorced, mother of two kids. I am having an affair with a married man. He was after me for a while, then I gave in - knowing he is married. Now he is leaving his wife and I don't want to be the 'reason'. He says it was inevitable. I love him and he says he loves me and I am in no hurry to get married but do I stay with him? I've told him my fears about him cheating with someone else. I don't know - I know the right - moral - thing to do is leave. I know that the right - emotional - thing to do is stay.
Confused!

I Don't know What To Do!!!Almost A Wreck

From a Male Reader..

Hello Eneche,

Here is my issue. 6years ago I was incredibly stupid and left the love of my life because I allowed other people to put "stupid and untrue" idea's about her in my head. I was told by a friend that my girl friend was cheating on me, and it was so convincing, that I decided to leave the relationship by starting one with the woman that I am married to now. Don't get me wrong, I do love me wife, and in the beginning, things were great. Over the years, the relationship has dwindled down to nothing despite me trying everything that I could to get keep the marriage strong. Well, last week, my ex (the one I never should have dumped in the first place) contacted me and her current marriage is kinda sucking too. We have talked on the phone, and even met for lunch. The wierd thing is, it was like we have never been separated for that 5 years. Everything is still the same, our connection hasn't faded and I know in my heart that I am still madly in love with her. She still loves me to. What do I do? Do I leave an unhappy but stable life to attempt to rebuild a life with her? Do I stay with my wife, risk being unhappy, and let my true love move out of my life again? Any suggestions? This really is making me sick!!

Don't know to do. What does he really want?

So I had a brief affair last year that ended the very end of Sept. Came totally clean with my husband and started working on myself because I really needed it. Things were really hard for four months. He would barely talk to me. He started warming up the beginning of February and we started acting like a married couple again. Sex, cuddling the whole nine yards. Things were going well. Last night , I was watching News with my husband when the doorbell rang. My husband answered the door and it was the other man. He was acting really strange and said he was just in the neighborhood and wanted to say hi. Just really freaked me out. I am surprised my husband didn't beat him to a bloody pulp. I can tell he wanted to. Now things are rocky again with my husband because he doesn't know why this guy stopped by. I don't know why he came by. I am totally freaked out and don't know what to do. Need advice. Why did he come over. What does he want.

Was i Wrong To Hit Him?

Dear DOASW

My husband has had so much to drink which is not out of the norm on the weekends. We have been together for nearly a decade, so he knows me. He knows I hate been tickled, and when he's drunk his tickling is more like a mix of actual tickling and jabbing. I was on the couch he was tickling me and i kept telling him to stop, but he wouldn't listen he went on and I got irritated with being "tickled". when I had already kicked him off and toId him to stop but that didn't stop him and then, I accidentally hit him with my phone. I got angry, and hit him the second time on purpose. I don't think that I hit him that hard, but he got angry. He got up, said he was going to hit me if I ever hit him like that again. I told him I felt like I had no choice. He wouldn't stop! His mom walked in on us arguing, and in front of her he said he was going to "scatter me" all over the livingroom if I ever hit him again, that if I wanted to act like a man he was going to treat me like a man. I really don't see how flailing and asking profusely for him to stop and him dismissing my requests is acting like a man? Was I wrong to hit him to get him off of me? Should I have just put up with his sloppy drunk behaviour? I just can't get over the fact that he threatened to physically hurt me. I mean he got in my face and for a moment, I thought he might. He kept asking me who the hell I thought I was. Um, your wife and the mother of your children so how about a little respect? He got up this morning, mad at me. Like I'm the one to blame! Am I crazy to think he owes me an apology and a promise that he's never going to threaten me again?

My Husband Beats Me in Pregnancy!

Dear Eneche

I have been married for almost 9-10 months now. My husband is abusive. he does love me but he beats me very badly.. 
He has a well paid job and I also work in the bank and give him all my salary(almost as much as his). and he keeps reminding me that he is feeding me and paying for my expenses.. he cares for his friends a little too much and wants to spend too much on them... they ignore me totally but he expects me to be lovey -dovey with them.. if i even show that i am not interested in them he beats me very badly... I am pregnant now in my 5 month and yet the beating hasn't stop... Just the other day, he asked me what i wanted and i said nothing and he beat me so bad my head swell up and still hurting till date. he even threatened to beat me in the stomach... i do care for him and love him but my love isnt seeming to be enough... what do i do ?? we in a country were people feel domestic violence is a right for men.and see divorce as a taboo..moreover is it not too early to start thinking that?pls Someone help me!

Opinion please

Hello Readers

About a Week ago,I received a call from my husband who was at that time in his office.he told me that on no account should I answer the door if anybody came knocking.  He claimed there's a man who's going crazy and was accusing him of having an affair with his wife.Hmmmm.I was confused at first but said ok. I waited almost the whole day no one showed up.instead I got a call from my dad saying someone called him to say his "Son Inlaw was having an affair with his Wife" and his wife already confessed to him when he confronted her with evidence.I was Embarrassed and angry at same time ..why should my husband date someone's wife. I called my husband immediately and he denied it saying the guy was nuts . that he's just friends with the lady nothing more and that they were secondary school friends. Finally I called the man in question and he told me they had been having an affair for a couple years and were meeting at a guest house in Ikeja. I got the womans phone number and it was the most frequently dialled number on my Hubby's phone with multiple sex text messages. My husband called the woman and put the phone on speaker for me to hear their conversation. He said tell my wife your husband is crazy and nothing happened. Her response was "thats your problem you need to get your own marriage in order like I am". "There is no friendship here". He acted as if I was supposed to take that as nothing happened but I didn't. He gets mad when I refer to his girlfriend and still says nothing ever happened. 
I don' t really know what to do with this. I want to believe him...but too many things point to him lying.
Do you think he did It???

What Is My Mother In-laws Place in My Home?

Hello Readers

I have been married for 4years. I'm married to my friend of 7years. I have no father inlaw. he died when my husband was still very young and my Mum in-law raised him on her own.
My husbands mum is very religious and has never visited us without trying to convert us to her religion (she is Jehovah Witness).and we are Pentecostal.
It was my husbands birthday/wedding anniversary last week and I  received a message from my mother in-law asking if we could come over to hers as she already made dinner to celebrate with us. I apologized to her nicely and told her we already made plans to go out with friends and it was almost time for the outing it won't be nice to keep people waiting.
She promptly texted my husband and said she had been cooking all day and I refused to come over to hers and that my excuse was flimsy. Mind you it was my husband who didnt want her over since she always throws the religion in our face. Anyway, I sent her a message to say it wasn't nice of her to lie to my husband about me. She then replied with a very long message telling me how she single handedly raised my husband and how I'm trying to create a gap between her son and herself. That if I love myself I should better dance to her tune or else get ready for a second marriage.Hmmmmm! That she's trying to find her place within our marriage! Im sorry but I didnt realize mother in laws had places within our marriage. Am I wrong to think that. I think she is overstepping her boundaries. This isnt the first time either. She is always calling and texting really rude and abusive messages.
We invite her over about once a month for Lunch and go to hers every other weekend that we aren't busy and each time ends with her getting upset because we are all going to 'burn in hell' since we wont convert. Im at a loss here. I adore my husband but am completely lost about how to handle this. Please someone help.

Should I Call The Cops?

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Ive been having an affair with a married man for about 2-3mo. We've known each other for years. He had just got married last year. So this evening when we meet up, she followed him and he did not know it. I had just got into his suv and kissed when she came driving up in front of us. Needless to say, she opened my passenger door and started beating on me in the back of my head and face. I handed my glasses to him so she wouldn't break them. Ive never been in a fight before. I went into shock. Well of course she called me every name in the book and then some. I got out of his suv when she told me to and left. She works for a lawyer. so later on he called to check on me and he said it wasnt worth it anymore that he couldnt risk his marriage. She had told him she wanted a divorce but he want to work it out. I almost called the police because she did assault me. I wasnt sure what to do. I dont know what my consequences would be if any at all. He told her we are just friends. I know she dont believe that. Ive thought about msging her and saying look ok we've been having an affair and attaching photos hes sent me. Im really pissed at him right now bc he did not do anything or say anything when she was hitting me. He did call to check on me and apologize for what happened. I dont know what to do. Ive never had an affair with a married man. Any help here

My Husbands Sex Drive

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I have been married for 9 years... as I got older, with kids, work, at times college AND work AND family to take care of, my libido is not the same as it used to be when we were younger and had less responsibilities. I am about to turn 37. I LOVE my husband, but we obviously love differently. My "love language" is taking care of everything, working at my job to contribute to our income, making sure our kids are happy and taken care of, etc... I love holding his hand when we walk, I love hugging him, I love hearing he say he loves me... regular things that every woman loves... His "love language" however, is physical touch - more in a sexual way than anything else. He has admitted he would be so happy if he could have sex every single day, and I don't think that's normal... am I the crazy one? I would be completely happy with sex 2, maybe 3 times a week.......The other thing is how he approaches it, he is not at all sweet/romantic about it, and that also turns me off.... while I appreciate that he is attracted to me and I know that is his "weird" way of showing love... it makes me feel like an "object", it does not make me feel loved. And it turns me off more and more... We have had multiple talks and it always end up with me feeling guilty for not feeling the same way he does. It has affected me tremendously. I've had anxiety over it, and at times I feel like I will never be able to make him happy because I know I will never be that much into sex. I am a woman. I meaningful conversation, words of encouragement, etc.. mean so much more to me than sex. Do I think sex in important? YES! Do I love having sex with my husband? YES! But I don't need nor want it every day and because of that I feel I'll never make him happy and fulfilled. I am not sure what I am expecting here... maybe some wisdom and guidance from someone? Help?

My Marriage is Hitting the wall

Im 35 and my husband is 40..we have been married for 10 years with beautiful kids. To cut the long story short, our relationship has been a rocky one from the beginning. It has never being peaceful and I'm always the one who gets hurt. while truly believing my husband has no clue how our tumultuous relationship has worn me down emotionally. Well a couple of days ago  something happened. I completely shut down and can hardly feel anything. I am apathetic towards him. I know its a defense mechanism of some sort, but I have no control over it. I am not in love with him, definitely, however, I care deeply for him, as weve been together for ten years. He has caused a lot of pain with being a workaholic, insensitive, no interests outside of work, highly stressed, moody, etc. Never physical with me but I believe there have been phases of emotional abuse and extreme lack of empathy over the obvious pain he can inflict on me. So my question is, has anyone ever gotten to the point to where you just don't FEEL anything when it comes to your spouse? I don't want conversation, hugs, definitely not sex, although I feel very deprived (he doesn't withhold, more the opposite). Can I recover from this? I am so extremely lonely, but do not wish for him to fill the void anymore. What can be done? Thanks

Am I Guilty For My Husbands Misbehavior?

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I have been married for 8years and have a 6year-old son. Last year i found out that my husband was cheating on me (he used to send messages to a girl and was hiding the phone). when asked he just said he was just having fun through messaging and nothing else, and then after 2 weeks or so, again he had called her again when i asked him,he said I should stop policing him or else it will get worse, so i just kept quiet. then around 4 months ago, he was caught with a girl in a hotel room (he had told me he is going on a business trip). when i found him there, he was shocked and said "sorry it wont happen again." and i was so frustrated that i asked him to leave me alone. then after a week, i went to him and asked what was his plan for the future, he said he has nothing to speak to me, from then on no contact, i tried to call him, no response, what should i do now? pls help.