Was i Wrong To Hit Him?

Dear DOASW

My husband has had so much to drink which is not out of the norm on the weekends. We have been together for nearly a decade, so he knows me. He knows I hate been tickled, and when he's drunk his tickling is more like a mix of actual tickling and jabbing. I was on the couch he was tickling me and i kept telling him to stop, but he wouldn't listen he went on and I got irritated with being "tickled". when I had already kicked him off and toId him to stop but that didn't stop him and then, I accidentally hit him with my phone. I got angry, and hit him the second time on purpose. I don't think that I hit him that hard, but he got angry. He got up, said he was going to hit me if I ever hit him like that again. I told him I felt like I had no choice. He wouldn't stop! His mom walked in on us arguing, and in front of her he said he was going to "scatter me" all over the livingroom if I ever hit him again, that if I wanted to act like a man he was going to treat me like a man. I really don't see how flailing and asking profusely for him to stop and him dismissing my requests is acting like a man? Was I wrong to hit him to get him off of me? Should I have just put up with his sloppy drunk behaviour? I just can't get over the fact that he threatened to physically hurt me. I mean he got in my face and for a moment, I thought he might. He kept asking me who the hell I thought I was. Um, your wife and the mother of your children so how about a little respect? He got up this morning, mad at me. Like I'm the one to blame! Am I crazy to think he owes me an apology and a promise that he's never going to threaten me again?