Dear Eneche
I have been married for almost 9-10 months now. My husband is abusive. he does love me but he beats me very badly..
He has a well paid job and I also work in the bank and give him all my salary(almost as much as his). and he keeps reminding me that he is feeding me and paying for my expenses.. he cares for his friends a little too much and wants to spend too much on them... they ignore me totally but he expects me to be lovey -dovey with them.. if i even show that i am not interested in them he beats me very badly... I am pregnant now in my 5 month and yet the beating hasn't stop... Just the other day, he asked me what i wanted and i said nothing and he beat me so bad my head swell up and still hurting till date. he even threatened to beat me in the stomach... i do care for him and love him but my love isnt seeming to be enough... what do i do ?? we in a country were people feel domestic violence is a right for men.and see divorce as a taboo..moreover is it not too early to start thinking that?pls Someone help me!
HI Dear,
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divorce is not a taboo and it is accepted on life threatening grounds. that man can kill you, just in case you don't know...he even threatened to beat you in your stomach.(meaning i can kill you if i so wish to)
SOLUTION: prayer can never be over emphasized, wipe ur tears, stop lamenting and pray about it. what do you want in your husband....google prayer points for a wife beating husband. prayers for healing in your home. make the Holy Spirit your friend. believe God he answers prayers.
My darling. Ur husband DOES NOT love u. U need to work on urself if u think him beating u is a sign of love. From the way u talk, I don't think the beating will atop either because u seem to be convinced that it is part of marriage package. I'm surprised to hear u say domestic violence is acceptable in Nigeria cos it isn't. For me, it is the only condition under which I would advice any woman to park her load and go. U r pregnant and u need to think of the life of ur baby. Give him space, leave the house for a while and make it known to both families y u r leaving. If he wants to remain married, he has to reaccess what he wants and then when u r sure he is changed, u may go home. I mean come on! Its not like u don't have a job that can support u and ur child. If u stay there, the beating will most likely continue. And just imagine how a man like that will be with ur kids and their step mother. Abeg. stories like this just annoy me really cos ur solution is so clear cut and u seem to be ur own jailer.
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