My EX and I dated for almost eight years and we were engaged to be married.Preparations already in place Hall booked ,bridal clothes ready etc. My wedding dress was so beautiful that I was so looking forward to that day. But guess what I called off my wedding few weeks to the supposed date.because the man I was going to marry was nothing but a cheat. I wish there was another word to qualify his own level of cheating because he feels that it's a normal thing for a guy to cheat.
He was a worker in the church we both attend and was even cheating on me with other fellow church workers. Chai (Lwkmd) I just felt I should keep praying for him since we have dated for that long and there's nothing God can't change. I was so shocked at some "Christians then that were telling me that they can't believe I am calling off my wedding because of that reason. (Cheating). Why will I marry a man for example, he tells me he's going to buy something and I don't believe him.
It wasn't an easy decision for me but I'm glad I did. I should have left the relationship earlier but I kept hoping things would change.it was God that gave me that courage if not I will be in a frustrated marriage by now. You know when God wants to bless you sometimes ,it would be through the hard way. I remember how many times elderly people called me to change my mind and continue with the wedding but with help help of God and close family and friends I stood my ground.
The last straw was few weeks to our wedding I went over to his place but that day God just wanted to punish him .he made me have access to his phone and I found out he was not just cheating with the person I thought but sleeping with 2/3 other people and he was even lying to one of them that we are having misunderstanding and the babe was busy getting angry saying he has to pick her or fix the issues with me (lol)all the babes knew me oo na only me blind. But that day was the end of our relationship.
Why I'm I sharing my story , is just to encourage people in such relationships and are finding it difficult to let go because of the fear of "what people will say or where, do I start from". A man that you can't change while dating What makes you feel is after he has paid your bride price and feels you are now is "property "(African mentalty) that you want to change him. Say no to emotional and domestic abuse...do not ignore the negative warning signal you see in your relationship.
Some women believe that it is in a man's nature to cheat which I totally disagree. I am not saying a man should be 100% faithful even though that is what every woman wants including myself. But at least when misbehaving respect the main woman and be remorseful.
I am happily married now. I am not saying my marriage is perfect but the least you can give me is peace of mind. I wish all single ladies in relationship all the best and pray for every marriage having crises at the moment .God help us all
Love the picture
ReplyDeleteLove the picture
ReplyDeleteBrave one I must say. @ Funmi I hope you learnt something not just loving the picture?
ReplyDeleteThank Jehovah u took d right decision and today happy in your new home.my dear marriage is truly to be enjoyed n not endured,peace all the way.
ReplyDeleteJudy, i agree with u, marriage is to be enjoyed not endured o.
ReplyDeleteSingle ladies pls let this story encourage u, no matter aw long u av dated dat man If u know deep down ur heart he can't bring u dat joy and peace u desire kindly flee and don't bother abt wat ple wld say cos in d long run it's d woman dat wld feel frustrated d most.
This lady actually made a smart choice.
May God help us all to pick the right person.
Meanwhile I like this picture as well, lol.
Amen!! Gd job anonymous u've spoken well,like u said if u can't change him while dating wat makes u think he'll change wen he owns u lol. Single ladies don't let desperation doom u 4life .be wise and smart about decisions u make
ReplyDeleteI want to use this opportunity to thank the great prophet for restoring back my home when i taught all hope was lost. My husband left for another woman and i met this great spell caster online and i explain my situation to him, after 2 days my husband came back to me and he is now as i want him to be. You can contact the Priest for any kind of spiritual work at arenaofsolutions@yahoo . com or whatsapp at +15754148400
ReplyDeleteGet your lover back urgent effective love spell to win and get ex back my advise reveal you all to contact Dr Ogudugu for a genuine love spell on greatogudugu@gmail.com that work fast. here is my relationship story. my boyfriend told me it was over and walk away without any reasons, I was confuse and didn't know what to do. I was desperate, I want him back, I went over the internet looking for ways to get my boyfriend back. I read about many different ways of how to get ex back, but Dr Ogudugu caught my attention. I immediately contacted him and explained my problem to him. It was amazing and surprising that 11hrs after the urgent love spell was cast, my boyfriend called me and was begging me to forgive him and accept him back, Couldn't believe, but later after he came to my house and fell on his knees asking me to take him back am so happy that my love is back again. I am testifying on this forum just to let people know that Dr Ogudugu is real and genuine. don't hesitate to try him out. thank you Dr Ogudugu you are truly talented and gifted genuine spell caster. Contact him now if you need your girlfriend/boyfriend back or your girlfriend moved on to another man, do not cry anymore .. Dr Ogudugu is here to help out in relationship problem coz problem share is problem solve.
ReplyDeleteEmail him at.... greatogudugu@gmail.com
whatsapp...+27663492930