From a male doasw reader.
Dear Eneche
I met my wife in a club few years ago,she was doing her youth service in Abuja.
Immediately I saw her I knew that she was the chosen one. I didn't need any prophecy to confirm that she was mine. I remember that she was with some wild looking girls that night but there was something about her that struck me; also not to forget that not all church girls are wife material.
I asked her for her number and she declined; but as a sharp guy I was able to get her number from one of her friends that night. As usual she was forming and fronting but we started talking and should I say the rest is history.
My wife was tall, dark and beautiful. Mehn!! my wife was a hot size 8 chic when we met. I am very sure if she contested with agbani then she would have won. But just after 2 kids my wife is looking like my grandmother.
She is so dirty and unkept; I'm sorry for my choice of language, that's the only way to describe how she is now. She is always looking confused as if she's the first person to have kids. I understand that it's not easy for her but my wife doesn't bother to dress up or do the things that got me attracted to her.
My wife as we speak is a size 16! Yes you heard me right. I saw the bold and beautiful before I decided to go for a model as a wife; and I thought to myself then worse case after kids she will be a size 12 or something.
I understand she's given birth but I mean I know people that have kids and still look good even with their size.
My wife can stay all day eating and watching African magic yoruba. I have talked to her severally and about starting a business while waiting for a job but she keeps saying she can't be dragging debt with people. So now her full time job is Dstv channel 157.
Please I'm not giving excuses or trying to justify why men cheat I'm just speaking for myself. No matter how a man loves a woman their some things that puts one off.
I thank you for creating this medium for all to interact but please encourage your fellow married ladies that marriage shouldn't change their way of life negatively. We like our wives to look hot for us. There are devourers in this town.
By the way I think I should get a prize for being the first male on the blog to speak up. In everything I've said, I still love my wife.
Hmmm.. Hope all women will learn from dis.
ReplyDeleteGud to know u still luv ur wife!
ReplyDeleteAs for our male writer....you just have a lazy wife, using the fact she has kids to let herseßlf go. She has a man now why bother looking good. Have you told her you don't find her attractive anymore...maybe you should
ReplyDeleteSir needs to know exactly how and what u feel about. Maybe by doing that, it will make her sit up and work consciously about her weight. Pls don't use her excesses as an excuse to cheat on her pls. Talk to her with love and see how u can help her out. Thank God u said u still love her. May God help us to keep our homes.
ReplyDeleteDear anonymous it's obvious you love your wife. Maybe you 2 should try working out together or enroll in a gym together so she get encouraged. Try and encourage her to eat healthy and don't get tired of telling her how much you want her to lose weight.
ReplyDeleteHelp her with the kids too and if she doesn't have a house help you may want to get one.
We women tend to forget and just relax once we get married but that's wrong but sometimes the men could contribute to the woman's nonchalant attitude especially if the man ignores the wife or mocks her about her weight after child birth etc.
W ���������� its well. Am a plus size. I wear 18 and sometimes 20. But I work out to keep fit and healthy. My hubby may not complain coz he met me almost dis way but my dear mrs Anonymous, I don't relax, I don't have a maid and I still keep my home, kids, hubby n work up n doing. I work hard to see how I can go back to 16 then we can start talking abt 14. Its easier to gain weight Dan to loose. Some Hubby's don't care but since our Mr Anonymous do care, pls help to take her along with u to d gym or get a personal trainer for her although its more encouraging wen ur more Dan one exercising or doing aerobics. U can try treadmill at home, tummy trimmer, skipping rope etc. But in all deez, Mrs Anonymous needs to tell advice herself coz my peeps said' onceself advise is d best. Ese........goooooooooon
ReplyDeleteMr anonymous pls let her mom do d intervention thatts if d mom is clean if not use ur mama. Let them do it fast o cos at d rate she's going she go enter 20 o.
ReplyDeleteI know of a lady who was size 4 after 2 kids she went to size 20 no kidding,she was dirty even wit house help d house was still unkept cld tell dat she didn't even take care of her inner self ���������� each time u go close to her d smell dat u perceive was bad and she had no career drive too.tk God now she's trying to get her life back 2geda
This time around I hope my ladies in d house will be true to themselves and tell that clumsy lady the simple truth
ReplyDeleteAs I read your story I was asking myself "Am I also becoming a lazy housewife like your wife? Does my husband feel the same way?" The truth is many married women can relate, if you don't feel like the it describes you it might describe someone you know. But as much as you want your wife to loose the weight to look good for you, encourage her to do it for herself. She needs your support not your ridicule. Buy something nice for her to wear make her realize she is still beautiful she just needs to work at it a bit. Go on walks together, help her with the kids when you can and tell her to go take care of herself. Suggest a trip to the salon or a visit to one of her girlfriends. Remember she must feel embarrassed by the way she looks now so please be sensitive. Her health and her self esteem should be important to you so don't give up on her.
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