5 YEARS OF DECEIT
I am a 39 years old lady almost in my 40s. I have been married for 8 fantastic years without a child. My husband is amazingly wonderful to me, a loving and caring husband even in the absence of children. We have fasted and prayed for God to bless us with kids of our own.
I noticed that each time I suggest we seek medical assistance my husband frowns at it and pushes it aside saying "it is God that gives children at the right time we will have ours. 5years into the marriage our families insisted we get medical help to know where we stand ,with that he had no objection.
various test were conducted I got the shocker of my life when the result was out. My husband has only one testis and low sperm count (No wonder he was refusing medical help) he was aware of his problem and did not carry me along. He has gone extra mile to show me more love but as it is I am on a cross road because I am getting closer to menopause and to think I have ben living in deceit is heart breaking.
I am tempted to move out of my home. How long do I live with this trauma?I need my own children .i am tempted to start a relationship with another because I seriously need my own kids. Please Pray for me..I am confused.
My dear God alone gives children and He alone can replace your hubby's second testes. I pray that the God of Abraham who gave Isaac to Sarah at age 90 will do the same for you. He is God that changes not, not today or forever. Keep loving your hubby cos d reason for marriage is love and companionship. Remember also that it's for better for worse; an oath we tend to forget. Keep the faith.
ReplyDeleteindeed he must have married you in deceit but you can still forgive him knowing that he loves you...
ReplyDeletesecondly, i must state that children only complements marriage and not necessarily the sole reason for marriage! however i have seen God bless woman without womb with children and men with zero sperm count... whose report will u believe? hold on, u are almost there.. enjoy ur hubby, if u really need kids go and adopt one! d bible says Abraham body though considered dead..... he brought forth.. its just temptation... bearing kids shld nt be reason to leave your home.. if it was u that had issues what would you expect your hubby to do?
enjoy your hubby now, when children start coming attention would be divided! God bless
It is God that blesses one with children, he is able to do it your miracle children will come soon. Ur hubby shouldn't have kept it as a secret but I can understand what he must be going through. Just like 2nd anonymous as said, if it was You that found out you couldn't give birth ? This is not easy to take though. It is well with you may God see you through in Jesus name.
ReplyDeleteIt's a different case if the guy was honest and told anonymous from the beginning. Cos people go into marriages for so many reasons. If this lady is one that is particular about having her own kids. Not adopting.
ReplyDeleteMay God continue to save us and our daughters.. may we never find ourselves in such cases. I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. It's really sad. Must be traumatising. Yes only her can decide... we can only put her in our prayers. If you love him then please forgive and consider adoption
ReplyDeleteWho knows,God may surprise her in no time. And age is no longer on her side. So achieving pregnancy even if she leaves may not be as easy as she thinks. So she should stay,atleast d puzzle is been solved already and d husband's people a already knows d fault is not hers Most times,its d fear of what will my in-laws say that really gets to women without kids. In all,prayer is key
ReplyDeleteMy dear there is no difficult situation for God.Low sperm count is curable.Kids are blessings from God they are not the reason we get married.dont ever think of cheating on him.God is the only healer he can do it for you.you might be close to your miracle and d devil is bringing a wrong solution to you.hold on and adopt if you really want a child and love your hubby.God forbid what if you cheat and leave him still you don't have kids what now happens?so its better you stick to your marriage
ReplyDeleteHow low is d sperm count? Wat did d doctor/xpert incahrge of d Lab say? Isn't there a chanceit may increase? Seek another Lab to double check d other and c reliable xperts in d field. Must be an xpensive hospital bcos d bills doesn't make them beta dan d oda. Get a good doctor.
ReplyDeleteDarling, divorce is not an option here pls.
ReplyDeleteI know how hurt u can be not avin a child not to talk of ur hubby avin secrets but the truth be told it's only God dat gives children. Some do ivf for like 5times with no result and den after a while gets pregnant witout help.
Pls ur husband must av been scared to open up even though he sld av allowed u made ur choice.
Pls forgive him, love him and trust me God wld bless u both with children.