My husband and i went to same university, but he was a class ahead of me.in the cause of our relationship he showed some trait of trying to hit me but i felt it was because he loved me and was jealous seeing me having other male friends(FIRST WARNING SIGNAL I IGNORED).
Eventually we broke up before he graduated and both went our seperate ways. after 2 years upon graduation we stumbled on each other after much talk he asked me to marry him saying he was a changed person promising heaven on earth. i accepted his proposal and we had a proper wedding.
Two years into our marriage he resumed abusing me. Beating and kicking me on my tummy Calling me a barren woman how coukd i have conceived when he kicks my belly at will ,forgetting the series of abortion i had for him while we were dating(FORGIVE ME OH LORD)
. I married him with my 2 eyes intact but as i type one of my eyes is wider than the other as a result of knife that he threw at me on one of the beating ,which gave me a deep cut. he insults my family at will and inflicts pain on me.
The last straw was when he hit a plank on my head and i hit him back and my "husband" at 1 am was chasing me with cutlass which he brought out from under the bed(sounds like africa magic but true) i called my brother and a close friend who took me back home next morning to make peace(without forming peace talk i wont leave the house with anything).
A week after, he traveled and i moved out all my belongings to somewhere safe. He has been looking for me asking everyone to beg me to return home. when i think of the knife that almost killed me and has damaged my eye for life i honestly dont feel like going back. His family members are on my case asking me to return.. I AM CONFUSED ...PLEASE HELP
This sound like Africa magic to me but seriously run as fast as your legs can take you before you loose your second eye
ReplyDeleteWhat is confusing her? Abi she wants to die then her family will go and pick up her corpse. Slapping , beating with bare hands is a no no not to talk of using weapons! Run as fast as your legs can carry u ooo
ReplyDeleteI don't think she's confused.She just want someone to give her reason to stay in d marriage
ReplyDeleteA cheating husband is better than a violent one.Use your head. two things bad 1 better
ReplyDeleteAmerican wonder! Y she Neva buy 50 naira weed for guys, make den beat crase commot for he Brain??
ReplyDeletePlain and simple there's no confusion there she's weak,ifu love ur life u'll run. The only thing dat I fee might be holding her back is d fear dat she may Neva be pregnant again bcos of all d DNC she's had wit him.but my dear holding on to him won't help.Men dat hit women are cowards,they were prolly bullied growing up they are weak and scared to fight their pears so they inturn take dat weakness and frustration out on innocent women. Den Neva born d man wey go raise hand hit dat day e go go hell not heaven lol. People some of dis women need tough love no sentiment pls!!
ReplyDeleteMy sister, all I can say is, flee for ur life! Dont allow anyone convince u to go back there. He does not love u, so get over yourself! If he did, he wld be unable to lay a finger on u. Just pick up and leave. Forget he even exists. He is a beast dt will get what is coming to him. Move on, lean on God. He can fix ur life and give u back all u ve lost! God grant u d wisdom and strength to fight for ur life.
ReplyDeleteIts easy to say She should leave because you are not inside ..God will give her the grace..he needs counselling and some spiritual work
ReplyDeleteI never said it was easy o. When one is facing d devil and d deep blue sea, you have to pick d better of both evils
DeleteExactly what I just told a friend: "When faced wit 2 evils, d lesser evil is beta" # Mrs omofaye
DeleteBeating you to deformity. there is no confusion there please run for your life.don't listen to anyone or family member marriage is not by force abeg.
ReplyDeleteYou talk am well oo. The guy needs help but she should give him long space for her life sake. The guy should seek help because the spirit pushing him to the extend of using weapons on his helpless wife, will clear from his eyes when he kills her.#Sherry
DeleteConfused! God loves you dear n you have an opportunity to live again because he almost killed you. My advice: please kindly move on with your life don't even have a rethink.
ReplyDeleteConfused! God loves you dear n you have an opportunity to live again because he almost killed you. My advice: please kindly move on with your life don't even have a rethink.
ReplyDeleteI think she is better off alive and sane, than married to that man. I won't encourage any woman who is physically abused to continue to endure and die in silence. (my personal opinion)
ReplyDeleteFirstly, the fundamentals of marriage must be adhered to irrespective of the circumstances. it suffice to say that He remains your husband since you are legally married to him.(I do not believe in divorce)
ReplyDeleteHowever considering the maltreatment and life threatening situation you are being put through, I'll suggest you go it by the law - knowing you can't keep hiding all your life.
If you still love him, get a restrain - order , He may be permitted to come see you where you are now to start with but not to sleep over. you can even perform your roll as a wife (because i see child bearing is a concern) in this capacity but he must have limited access to you. He must not sleep over. - let him re-love you all over if he's truly sorry for his actions.
you are not divorcing him but helping him to rethink his actions and amend his ways. Such orders have help to calm down Violent men.
The choice is yours, keep running all your life or give your self a voice and face this demon head long.
God help you.
If your husband knows you are on this blog and still wants back, can assure you he knows lots of people are watching now On a personal note I also salute your courage to cry out. I would also recommend a marriage enhancement class in my church because I don't know if other one's are THOROUGH like ours.(family worship) Just seeing your story and truly, I have to applaud your strength. In that class you will hear testimonies that will make you thank God for yours
DeleteIf your husband knows you are on this blog and still wants back, can assure you he knows lots of people are watching now On a personal note I also salute your courage to cry out. I would also recommend a marriage enhancement class in my church because I don't know if other one's are THOROUGH like ours.(family worship) Just seeing your story and truly, I have to applaud your strength. In that class you will hear testimonies that will make you thank God for yours
ReplyDeleteHe's begging you to come back out of his own selfishness. If you plan on returning to him just make sure your ways are right with God and you have money down to fund your funeral, to save your family the stress cos I believe going back to such a man is suicidal.
ReplyDeleteSimilar thing happened to a friend. I advice you to stay off and stay alive. Many ate going crazy in this world
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