My estranged husband and I courted for over a year before we tied the knot.shortly after our wedding my husband lost his job. I felt really bad and prayed that God should quickly bless him with another job, He was able to secure a good job in a short time but then, the monster in him started to manifest, Which some warning signs were there earlier but I pretended to be blinded by love to conquer all odds.
My husband started comparing me with the high class women in his new office,all of a sudden I became a local champion. He was always saying that his colleagues were more beautiful and cultured,He beats and brutalised me sexually. When I discovered I was pregnant for our first child,I still broke the good news to him despite his brutality.
To my utmost surprise, he told me to go to hell with the bastard I was carrying inside of me and i quote "you can't force me to love you even with dozens of children". I ignored him and decided to take care of myself and my unborn child. During one of my antenatal visits to the hospital I was diagnosed with gonorrhoea, how on earth did I contact it? if not from the cheating monster I call my husband, I told him about the diagnosis and the next day he came home at night and moved his things out of the house.His words to me was "I'm moving out from here to a better place, you and the bastard inside of you can remain here". I cried holding his legs and begging him not to go.all my tears and plea was in vain as he walked out on me that night.
Few months after he left I had a beautiful baby boy, I struggled to secure a job in a telecommunication company where I have risen to the position of a manager. After picking the pieces of my life in a bitter pill, my son is 6 years old and doing very well in school. Now the monster of a father wants to come back and be part of our lives.a man who disowned his child and never saw him being birth not to talk of 6 years after! Someone should please wake me up from this dream of no return. He's blaming the devil for his actions. Was it also the devil that asked his family members not to look for us in the last six years?
My mind was made up 6 years ago and on no account will I consider him because he destroyed me 6 years ago, and since then, I've been unable to date again because it affected me psychologically and I began to see all men as the same. I want to raise my son alone in love. Somebody should please refer him to this blog and tell him to stay away from us.
To my utmost surprise, he told me to go to hell with the bastard I was carrying inside of me and i quote "you can't force me to love you even with dozens of children". I ignored him and decided to take care of myself and my unborn child. During one of my antenatal visits to the hospital I was diagnosed with gonorrhoea, how on earth did I contact it? if not from the cheating monster I call my husband, I told him about the diagnosis and the next day he came home at night and moved his things out of the house.His words to me was "I'm moving out from here to a better place, you and the bastard inside of you can remain here". I cried holding his legs and begging him not to go.all my tears and plea was in vain as he walked out on me that night.
Few months after he left I had a beautiful baby boy, I struggled to secure a job in a telecommunication company where I have risen to the position of a manager. After picking the pieces of my life in a bitter pill, my son is 6 years old and doing very well in school. Now the monster of a father wants to come back and be part of our lives.a man who disowned his child and never saw him being birth not to talk of 6 years after! Someone should please wake me up from this dream of no return. He's blaming the devil for his actions. Was it also the devil that asked his family members not to look for us in the last six years?
My mind was made up 6 years ago and on no account will I consider him because he destroyed me 6 years ago, and since then, I've been unable to date again because it affected me psychologically and I began to see all men as the same. I want to raise my son alone in love. Somebody should please refer him to this blog and tell him to stay away from us.
May God heal ur wounds and give you a reason to love again.... never say never!
ReplyDeleteStay strong dear, God will help u!
ReplyDelete1. I want to believe the guy was a wrong choice at 1st.
ReplyDelete2. Am sure you are a good person that deserve not to suffer was the reason God took him out of your life.
3. The family don't deserve you was d reason they didn't care when he left.
Back to biz.. my darling God has saved you from dat bondage please don't even look back.
Beg say? If you are not working the man will not want to come back... so darling sister think well.
As for you not dating again dat might not be a good idea cos you are still young you need a companion all you need do is to look well and correct all you did wrong in choosing at 1st.
God's grace will be sufficient for you, he will direct your part. I love you because you are a strong woman .
I think if they had white wedding, hnnnnnm, she is not think of remarry ooooh. Just suffer him but before u take him back coz u guys still have along way to go n he can't trash u again in his life. Ensure u do all kinds of STD test oooooooooh sister.
ReplyDeleteMay God grant us wisdom, knowledge of understanding in our marriage, family and career IJN Amen.
ReplyDeleteIn first 4 years of marriage I could tell my in laws were against me .....why I do not know...I prayed to God to put my love in dia hearts. 7yrs later...we are good. They now visit me, my mother in law that didn't use to call or pick my call or come for omughur after d birth of my 2kids now comes to visit n even send me food stuffs...we now gist n laugh..... Sisters love n prayers goes a long way
ReplyDeleteBible don talk am finish. It said the heart is desperately wicked. And when the bible said man, na both. So that's why we need to start praying for our children not to fall into the hands of such people.
ReplyDeleteMost of these guys dat misbehave are from home dat lack love. Cos you can only give what you have
ReplyDeleteJusty person wey bad no get anoda name o. Bad na bad. That kin man no go fit change. He didn't abandoned his wife alone + unborn child. Hmmmm am sure d guy is broke or he has gone to pray somewhere and they asked him to go back to his wife. Baby that lady will never love him again... so she will be leaving a false life to satisfy a worthless man.
ReplyDeleteIf na die d man die nko? She no go move ahead? Her happiness o.
This is tricky and difficult. May God help U to make the right decision.
ReplyDeleteI am glad u found yourself a good job n taking care of ur son.....Please pray he stays far away from you please.....to me he doesn't deserve to be in ur lives at all....even d family. Take care of ur son....move on...trust me u will find love again. All men aren't the same.
ReplyDeletePlssssssss I beg you in the name of God don't let him back into your life ,he is coming back because he heard you re now doing well for your self ,if you let him back he will show you worst thing with time ,just forgive him and move on with your life without looking back I beg you,also all man re not same put yourself together pray to God to help you raise your child ask him to lead you to love again
ReplyDeleteMay God heal your wounds and give you a reason to love again.... never say never!
ReplyDeleteI'm not as bitter as i am towards the husband like i am with d in laws! the truth is that before any apology would be looked into the both families should be involved. the fact that they also abandoned you and their child, which shows how irresponsible not just their son's actions were, but also their actions! well it now depends on you, what do you want for yourself and d kid, do you want to raise him up as a single mum? do you have plans to remarry etc... whatever decision you arrive at am sure u know what is best for you cos 6yrs is a long time.
ReplyDeleteIf u start seeing all men as the same,remember you have a son too n no one is perfect not even ur son...forgive the man n move on without him because your inability to move on means he stil has a hold over you.
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