I am married into a northern family and I am from the eastern part of Nigeria, I guess this is what we will call WAZOBIA union; lol.
I am very lively girl, I don't allow things get to me. I like to smile, laugh and live like today is my last although I am not the party type but love been around people. I am adventurous and spontaneous, life is too short wishing and hoping. Just go out there and do it kinda person.
Anyway back to gist, I married this man who I thought had the same standards as me, but to find out he doesn't. Its been about 2 years now that we've been married and as the months goes by I dislike him more and more and care less more and more. We both work a lot and I try to ignore him as i don't want to be close to him. Talking to him is like talking to a wall. I feel like if he were to be more open to what I want it'll be better. He has a lot on his plate, as I keep telling myself that from the way he treats me,I try my best to avoid him at all cost. We have nothing in common, he doesn't make me a better person and when i try to make him a better person he gets offended.
Every week I think about getting a divorce but I don't have the balls to. As I have no one, both my parents passed, I am the only child and I have no family. Its just me. Financially I can handle myself as I work, that's not an issue. But I love his family and have become attached to his sister and his mom. I feel like I'm staying in this marriage so I don't break their hearts. I really don't know what to do. I am unhappy all the time, I have no motivation to do anything. The marriage is just not working for me. What do I do?????
"See question ooo" Please someone help me answer:
Dear poster, I'm going to pick on a statementyou made, you said "I feel like if he were to be more open to what I want it'll be better " Don't you think that's a little selfish? Marriage is about a merging of personalities, didn't you know how he was before marrying him? I think two years is too soon for you to want a divorce already. You have to compromise and so does he... You have to find a way to enjoy each other despite your different personalities and then find friends that you have things in common also so you can enjoy time away from each other. Bottom line is marriage takes work, effort, sacrifice if you're not willing to put them in prepare for failure! Hope you can both sit down and work things out.
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