Hmmmm...Today I had an appointment to catch up with in maitama, I could not drive down myself due to this long unfriendly fuel queue, hence I decided to hike a cab to meet up.barely five minutes after the cab moved, the taxi man looked at my hand and saw that I was wearing a wedding band and he said; aunty I know you are a married woman so I will like to ask you a question, I asked him to go ahead with his question wondering what on earth could this question possibly be.and the question came thus"if a husband ask his wife not to do some certain things and she keeps doing them,and also disrespecting her husband before neighbours, What should the man do'? *Smile* for a second I paused and smiled thinking how did he know I was into relationship stuff? Well that's by the way, and then I was hoping the man is not enslaving his wife,because that will be totally unacceptable and the man turned to me and said "aunty na me' my wife dey bully me,what that means for those that Dont understand pidgin english is, his wife bullies him. He said to me that whenever they have an argument or misunderstanding, she pulls his mouth telling him to keep quite and stop talking like a woman.*Sad* "she locks me out of the house I built in maraba from my hard sweat, and decided to add a shop for her which she uses as a salon.if I tell her not to open the saloon on sundays she will lock the shop and put chairs outside to attend to customers .whenever I come home later than 9pm, due to traffic and the nature of my job , instead of serving me my dinner, she gives the food to our dog right in front of me ,and says its my punishment for coming home late. this among numerous humilations...am runing out of patience to beat her and throw her out but this is the wife I married & would not want to inflict injuries on her...what do I do? And I said to him that i actually have a forum where we discuss relationship matters, though I'm not a marriage counselor, but he should give me his contact.I will put up your story on my blog and get others opinion then get back to u. But until i get back to you please dont let her push you to the point of hitting her.My dear readers, please advice! I need to get back to him as promised. But do we actually have women who beat up their husbands?
Ok I think the man should pray, his wife's actions seems to be more of spiritual than natural because I see no reason why a wife who is the weaker sex be pulling her husband's mouth during confrontation. Plus she gives his dinner to their dog when he comes home late as punishment. Haba! That is not normal, I feel for him though. He should not beat her pls.
ReplyDeleteBeating her will only make matters worse, it is obvious that she doesn't respect him. I'll suggest the following; prayer is very important but he should sit her down and have a very serious talk with her if he hasn't done so already. Tell her calmly that things need to change in order for their marriage to continue. Another thing is to involve an elder in his community or religious leader to have a meeting with both of them, hear both of them out and then offer them advice.
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