I have been married for 6years now. For all 6years I would say that there was more hardship than love. My husband is an addict and it did get to the point of physical violence once with me having a black eye. He has since stopped drinking. Now he is choosing weed. Him smoking this has always been an issue in our marriage and I have expressed that I do not agree with it. We have 2 kids (5 & 2). He has made numerous promises to stop smoking and has not. It has come to the point of him smoking at work while on break. The last time I saw him smoking he promised that was going to be his last. now here I am again. He will only offer an apology and nothing more. He is not willing to fight for our marriage like I have over the past 6years of him lying. It hurts me that he is willing to give up his family life for his selfishness. It hurts and I do not know what to do because of course I do love him and want him to fight for our marriage.
I have since asked him that maybe we should stay apart, like take a break But he has refused: he's so attached to the kids and will not have us stay apart.but I don't want them growing up thinking marijuana is good.
So is enough, enough already?
Enough isn't enough yet,if I am allowed to ask questions...what foundation was this marriage built on? Did he just pick up smoking? If he just started smoking, did you try to find out the cause? If he wa smoking before you got married, did you think he was going to change? I hear that men are ten times what they are before marriage in marriage so you may have to visit the foundation of the marriage to start things all over again with God....take things to Him, He is the all knowing God.
ReplyDeleteBoth Alchohol and Marijuana are considered drugs because they have the tendency to make someone dependent or even addicted to their effect. Dealing with drug problems in a relationship is really though I know from personal experience, they really strain relationships. But most times the behavior you see in your husband are due to the influence he's under, he probably wants to stop more than you want him to. Try to keep supporting him to stop, he won't stop if you give him ultimatums. With love and support, and if you seek for professional help he can quit. Good luck!
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